Happy 1st of March! Have we really passed two months of 2016? It still feels like January to me… Maybe it’s because I haven’t been accomplishing as much I’d like to.
So, putting it all together, it’s been 5 months at Uni. I am in my final year however I seem to have been missing out more than ever. In the beginning of the (academic) year, I was invited along to most get-togethers, but it all seemed to stop when I couldn’t make it to ONE event. Has this happened to you? Where people just write you off from any future events just because you couldn’t make it to ONE event? I didn’t realize this was a rule. Way to make one feel excluded and forgotten. People would say “Hey, don’t get so butthurt, sometimes people just miss out someone. It happens.” Sure it does, but if you’re in the same course, see that person a few times a week, chat with the person now and then… surely he/she is bound to remember you, no? It cuts even more when you thought you made a connection with that person through a conversation… but looks like it was all one-sided now. I’ve been there.
To any of you feeling this way, like you’re missing out and not fitting in… well, you CAN change it. All you have to do is SPEAK UP. We can’t all be mind readers. You may be the shy type, you may be afraid of finding out that you don’t fit in, you may be afraid of being perceived as too needy… but these are all “maybes” until you try by speaking up. You playing the victim card affects no one else but you.
Alas, my not speaking up goes beyond this. Why? Well, another story, another post to keep this one short.
So to those of you who feel like you’re being socially outcast, you might not be. Do not let your anxiety get the best of you! Misunderstandings and mistakes happens. It is their lost if they can’t see how great you are, but it is your lost if you don’t even try to put yourself out there.
“You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up“
“But I wonder what would happen if you
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave”
Stop making excuses or blaming others, speak up for yourself! It is very intimidating the first time round, but once you’ve done it, you’ll feel empowered! Trust me! You could start with just maybe texting/chatting online with these people if you are afraid of doing it face to face. Establish a connection and then before you know it, you’ll be having meaningful conversations and having an awesome time. Some people are more aware of how shy others can be while others aren’t, so sometimes you have to be more persistent. Just be you and speak! You have nothing to lose and all to gain. Be brave, be you and you’ll start fitting in soon enough my fellow friends!
To any of you feeling this way, like you’re missing out and not fitting in… well, you CAN change it. All you have to do is SPEAK UP.
Don’t let your shadow win over your chance to make great connections and friends.
Do any of you face the same anxiety or dilemma? I hope this helps! Let me know how your speaking up went or share your experiences! Feel free to ask me any questions too! Speak up! =)